Start Dating a seperated man with adult children

Dating a seperated man with adult children

My siblings (I’m the second of four) and I felt utterly abandoned and unloved.

We were in Dad’s temporary custody for five years until the divorce was finalised, then we went to Mum. Dad would say that Mum took all his money and ruined his life.

He blamed her for him losing his temper at work and being fired, since he’d been particularly angry after a phone call from her.

I think she needed to have someone affirm the way she felt. My parents used to fight a lot, usually about money, so I guess them being apart wasn’t exactly a bad thing.

She was upset, so I can’t judge her on her actions. The most significant memory I have is of Dad crying over the phone insisting that he wasn’t ‘a bad father’. To this day he chastises me for not calling him often enough.

When your parents divorce, it makes you grow up fast.

I'd urge parents to strongly consider working things out. Especially if there were babies involved.'My parents separated when I was five. It was pretty nasty and it took them about five years to agree on who would get custody of my sister and me and all the assets.

I later found out we were used as ‘bargaining chips’ – you get the car, I get the kids – which I resent.